I’ve been a parent for almost 8 years and I still dare not say I know what I’m doing. Coz the truth is I don’t! Parenting is a constant trial and error process until they leave home! God knows, we will still trial and error with our grandkids…
We parent different ways, but it’s becoming more and more common that we’re setting our kids up for tough competition in the “real world”. Most parents want their children to have the best opportunities presented to them, be selected by top universities and land a good-paying job. The problem is that it’s every parent’s dream, which in turn, makes the competition even tougher. Everyone is grooming their kids, I should too! That’s the mentality in the developed world these days. And who is taking the brunt of all this? You got that right. The kids. Our kids.
I came across this video last night and I immediately thought of you guys! I know you are always on your toes, wanting to do your best for your child. Julie Lythcott-Haims, an academic and author of How to Raise an Adult just rocked my world last night. I kept asking myself why I hadn’t seen this video sooner! Why hasn’t this talk received millions of views? She definitely deserves to be heard! So here I am, sharing my first best 15 minutes of 2018 with you. I hope you liked the video as much as I did.
So what were my favourite parts?
We expect our kids to perform at a level of perfection we were never asked to perform at ourselves.
This, up there, I can’t agree more. Spot on!
And in the check-listed childhood, we say we just want them to be happy,but when they come home from school,what we ask about all too often first is their homework and their grades.And they see in our faces that our approval, that our love,that their very worth,comes from A’s.
And she ended her talk with a powerful bang.
But I’ve come to realize, after working with thousands of other people’s kids — and raising two kids of my own, my kids aren’t bonsai trees. They’re wildflowers of an unknown genus and species — and it’s my job to provide a nourishing environment, to strengthen them through chores and to love them so they can love others and receive love and the college, the major, the career, that’s up to them. My job is not to make them become what I would have them become, but to support them in becoming their glorious selves.
Parents, I can’t tell you how much I love this lady’s talk. It is such a good reminder for me as I raise my own 3 boys that they need other things in their lives such as love, play and responsibilities and not only academic results.
What was your favourite part of this talk? Share in the comment section and let’s talk!